Do we seek a change of orientation?

Many Christians believe this is always the desire of God's heart. I'm not convinced by that argument, but equally nor am I convinced God wants us to struggle with our sexuality (homosexual or heterosexual). Perhaps one of our problems is a difficulty in accepting the uniqueness of God's nature. We say, "His ways aren't our ways" but do we really accept that? Jesus gives various reasons (circumstantial, physical, emotional and perhaps sexual) why some people will not be married and therefore be celibate (Matt 19:11-12). But He does not go on to say God wants to change that for them so they can be married and have sex. We will never fully understand the mystery of God's ways. He hates sin and suffering, but allows it. He has ultimate control over Satan and has destroyed him, but still allows him some influence and wants us to fight against him. Our minds cannot fully understand this, but we are called to accept it and seek to obey our sovereign God.

Having said that, we know many people do experience changes in their sexual orientation, which is sometimes a result of working at self image issues in various ways. Ironically, some even become aware of heterosexual feelings for the first time, when they accept their homosexuality! Perhaps this all has to do with the 'low self image root', which I believe usually drives homosexual desire. Accepting oneself, including one's homosexuality and seeing it as a part of self worth, therefore takes some power away from the longing to be 'someone else'. Instead of searching primarily for my value in the person 'I would like to be, or have been' I am free to desire someone who is 'different'. Clearly that does not always happen and if we desire to become heterosexual, perhaps we should ask ourselves why? Maybe it's because of one of the following three reasons :-

1. We desire marriage and children - this is perfectly legitimate.
2. We fear a lonely old age - marriage doesn't necessarily prevent it.
3. Heterosexuality make us feel more acceptable - it does not make us more acceptable to God.