TfT is a confidential Christian support and teaching ministry that holds to authentically biblical teaching on sexuality. We offer support to individuals who experience same-sex attraction, but who choose not to embrace a gay identity or to pursue a same-sex relationship because of convictions of faith. We also support families, friends and church leaders of those who experience same-sex attraction.
Facing the mirror
My first conscious thought of the possibility that I could be attracted to other girls entered my head when I was thirteen. It was a fleeting thought because I immediately suppressed it. I was unable to deal with the possibility that I may have feelings that I have only ever heard of as disgusting and unnatural at both church and at home, and I simply denied it. I continued to deny it for ten years. Throughout my teens I lived in hope that my lack of attraction to guys was because I had yet to meet the right one.
When it comes to questions of ‘happiness’ we need to ensure our views are shaped by God’s word rather than our culture. Sex is not essential for a fulfilled life. Our Saviour was single and celibate and the Apostle Paul was also single. The lie of our culture, that you need sex or a romantic relationship to be ‘happy’, is untrue. Being unmarried is also celebrated in the Bible. The FAQ ‘Can a single person be as happy as a married person?’ touches on this.
This question assumes that God made someone gay. So the first point is that it's not been proven that people are born with same-sex attractions (see FAQ "What causes same-sex attraction?"). Secondly, the question ignores the biblical truth that we live in a fallen world where every one of us has desires that God calls us to deny.