TfT is a confidential Christian support and teaching ministry that holds to authentically biblical teaching on sexuality. We offer support to individuals who experience same-sex attraction, but who choose not to embrace a gay identity or to pursue a same-sex relationship because of convictions of faith. We also support families, friends and church leaders of those who experience same-sex attraction.
This article was written by Stuart, TfT Assistant Director, with input from Jim, a member of a London church, who particularly seeks to welcome those from a gay background. It was first published in the Spring 2014 newsletter.
Many Christians would avoid describing themselves as ‘gay’, to avoid it being mistaken as their identity - see our FAQ:"Can I be a gay Christian?" for more discussion on this. However, I am using the term gay intentionally in this article to explore how a person who identifies as gay or lesbian might be received in a typical church. Much of this is probably relevant to how churches welcome same-sex attracted professing Christians too. For clarity, in the examples below, the gay people are not professing Christians whereas the other people are believers. This article does not address how a church might respond to professing Christians who are out of step with biblical teaching.
True Freedom Trust (TfT) is aware that Reparative and other therapies aimed at eliminating or reducing unwanted same-sex attractions are attracting controversy. We are aware that some feel such therapy has harmed them, but also aware that some have felt benefit from such therapies in various ways, including lasting reduction in same-sex feelings. TfT believes people should have the right to choose and explore ways in which they can be helped and our understanding is that no reliably robust scientific studies are available to prove claims one way or another.
by Ian David Corbert-Walker © 7 July 2014
The end of my marriage
In 1988 my marriage of seven and a half years came to a shuddering halt. If you had known me then you would have said my family was typical of most Christians. I worked for BT in the Post room. My wife Therese (not her real name) and my two daughters and I attended a lively charismatic community type church where we were fully involved in activities and built up good friendships. We were particularly close to a couple I will call Zac and Anthea, who had a young family like us.
We hadn’t been going to the church for long before we invited Zac, Anthea and their family to tea. Therese was upstairs showing Anthea around whilst Zac and I washed up in the kitchen. To this day I don’t know why I did it but I suddenly blurted out, ‘I am a homosexual. I have homosexual tendencies’. Zac handled this well and said something like, ‘It’s going to be alright’. I don’t remember much more of the conversation, just a feeling of relief that I had finally told someone my deepest, darkest secret. Just days before, I had visited an ‘Adult’ cinema and was feeling really guilty.