TfT is a confidential Christian support and teaching ministry that holds to authentically biblical teaching on sexuality. We offer support to individuals who experience same-sex attraction, but who choose not to embrace a gay identity or to pursue a same-sex relationship because of convictions of faith. We also support families, friends and church leaders of those who experience same-sex attraction.
‘Naked Surrender: Coming home to our true sexuality’
by Andrew Comiskey
Published by IVP in Sept 2010
As a new Christian, I had been profoundly impacted by Andrew Comiskey’s earlier book ‘Pursuing Sexual Wholeness’ so I was excited to read ‘Naked Surrender’. Here he describes the church as, “...a mosaic of Christ composed of many faces.” He states that it is within the body of Christ that we find healing; we recover together as we learn to, “love imperfectly but well.” We become ‘good gifts’ to each other as we, “submit to one another out of reverence to Christ,” (Ephesians 5:21).
I was approached by TfT to write this article from the perspective of a married man with same-sex attraction (SSA). I have been aware of my SSA since my late childhood but have never been in a relationship with another man. In my late teens I met my girlfriend who then became my fiancée and has now been my wife for over twenty years.
At around 14 years of age, at the onset of puberty, I first became aware of homosexual desires. I was attracted to men and only men. Mine was a fairly textbook case; I had no male influence in my childhood (my father died when I was 4) and grew up in an all-female house. This longing to have a father to do things with lasted from the age of 6 until I was 12, but on reaching puberty that longing for a father turned into homosexual feelings. I also suffered from deep inferiority due to being been badly bullied at school.