Silent Sagas: Unsung Sorrows: Heterosexual wife, Homosexual Husband
by Louella C Komoves.
Publisher: i Universe.com
£7.99 (£3.84 Kindle edition)
Louella Komoves discovered 8 years into her marriage, and the birth of three sons, about her husband’s "different sexual orientation" through a thank you note to a mutual friend he had stayed with which said, "Thanks for your hospitality. It was great. It was the first time I’ve ever done it on a kingsized bed". She stayed in her marriage for another 20 years.
Louella lived in a protected world where she had “no idea what gaydar meant”. Questions such as ‘If he was gay why did he marry me?’ and ‘What would this mean for our sons’ lives?’ consumed her. She found many straight spouses going into ‘closets of their own’ when homosexual spouses come out. She describes the reactions from her sons, her wider family and the church; there were a lot of ‘group hugs’. A survey is included from Straight Spouse Network who gave her support as well as an appendix from others in a similar position. The book is written in line with the TfT basis, but when researching the aforementioned network, a Biblical line is definitely not espoused.